WISDOM FOR HEALING WOUNDS OF LIFE
'For I
will restore you to health, And I
will heal you of your wounds,' declares the LORD, 'Because they
have called you an outcast, saying:
"It is Zion; no one cares for
her." ~ Jer 30:17
In life, people
can encounter wounds deep inside them because various issues:
Sources of wounds in
life
· Challenges of life
o
testimony
o
Marriage, workplace, business
o
Family
·
Words spoken by family, church and work
mates
o
Words pierce and penetrate more
powerfully than anything because they touch the heart.
o
Words can bring offenses: offenses are
sure to come
·
Abuse by family members esp your close
ones
·
Clashes at church or work or family
A wounded
believer is not an effective believer. A wounded believer is difficult to win.
(Prov 18:19) We are an army of God and when the army is wounded there is defeat
of that army. The challenge is that the church wants to win when it has wounded
soldiers. Most men pretend that they are not wounded because we were groomed to
say MEN don’t cry.
Types of those wounded
- People who think
are wounded
- Those who pretend
- Genuinely wounded
- Those wounded but
deny
Signs That You are
Wounded
·
Hard to be loved no matter how people
try their best
·
Feelings of hostility (insults, harsh
words) towards
o
God
o
Others who even didn’t hurt you
o
Self: Self-hate~ this happened because
of what I am and or what I did.
·
Overly
sensitive and easily frustrated: Egg-kind of believers
o
Defensive attitude and trying to justify
oneself
o
Critical and criticizing everything and
everyone
o
Arguments
·
Withdrawal symptoms:
o
One builds a wall around to avoid
further offences
o
Isolation: me and my God
o
Leaving God’s work and no longer
available, changing churches
o
Suspicion about everything and everyone
·
Retaliation: fixing the offender or
where the wound came from
Dangers of keeping
wounds
·
Blocks blessings of God
· Pass on the effects of wounds
(contagious): You want others to feel what you feel and contaminate them. Another
challenge is that you can become a gossiper
·
Lose identity because of the
concentration on the wound than the personality of who you are. This is
manifested in inferiority complex.
·
Build a wall so that you avoid to be
wounded again.
·
You think everyone is your offender
·
Kills your spiritual life and you can
backslide (testimony)
·
Prevents you to move forward
·
Causes diseases e.g depression, stress,
HBP
·
Relationships are blocked: separation,
disagreements, betrayals,
o
Loves grow cold
o
Accusations and blame attitude.
·
Death
What to Do For Healing
The Wounds
·
Pray for a clean Ps 51:10
·
Admit that I am wounded and seek help
·
Let it go~ what do you lose? Sometimes
we don’t want to let it go.
·
Forgiveness of the offender and
yourself. It is hard especially when someone has wounded us (Mt 6:14-15)
·
Emotional Support and counselling – talk
to someone. Don’t pretend that you are strong enough to keep the wound (Prov 12:15)
·
Desire peace with all men (Heb 12:14, Rom 12:18)
·
Make lessons from the phase of the
wounds
·
Cast all your cares/burdens to Him (1 Pet 5:7)
About the
author
 |
John Museredzo is a relationship expert with a bias towards the youth
and family relationships | an author | motivational speaker | pastor | life
coach | business consultant | blogger. He is an author of 5 books to date
including The Dream In The Wilderness;
Youth, Relationships and Marriage, In Pursuit of The Calling and Success Within
Reach. He also does articles and seminars online and in colleges,
universities and development organizations.
Contacts
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+263775127589
Email:
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