YOUTH
AND MARRIAGE DELIVERANCE
By
John Museredzo
Marriage is God’s idea (Gen 2:18). It is the will of God for people to get married. For
many young people aspiring to get into marriage, they are met with resistance
from spiritual forces which I generally call anti-marriage spirits. These
spirits hinder or block one into getting fruitful relationships which culminate
into a fruitful marriage. This article has been prepared with passion and
inspiration to help the youth. It should be read together with my book; Youth, Relationships and Marriage. Read
this article prayerfully.
SIGNS
OF ANTI-MARRIAGE SPIRITUAL ATTACKS
1. Marital distress and worry: Many youth people are attacked in the areas
of worry, anxiety and distress about marriage. The moment you do this you are
opening a door to marriage attacks. Many people over-think about marriage. They
are obsessed. Every time you question God and yourself, why you are not yet
married. This is a sure sign that you are already in bondage. The devil will be
very happy to see being troubled by what God can provide. Connected to this is the far extreme opposite
of being overexcited about marriage. You want to hear about marriage and seek
to find out much about married life to the extent that you are stressed up.
2. Bad dreams pointing to marriage: Many exhibit signs of marriage
attack through the dreams they have in connection with marriage. Most of these
have a sexual nature. The devil will want to plant excitement or worry through
these dreams. Check the kinds of dreams below:
- Sexual relationships in dreams: Spiritual marriage
partners make love to you and then they go, but come back every night.
- Missing one’s menstrual period in the dream: in the
spirit something will be happening to your marriage life.
- Pregnancy or having a miscarriage after sexual dreams
in the dream: Some can wake up having a tight tummy. Some may wake up with
messed sheets and blankets.
- Breast- feeding a baby in the dream
- Backing a baby in the dream
If
you are experiencing such, you are under an attack.
3. Hatred of marriage: Some people instead of worrying
about marriage actually hate marriage. The moment they see marriage with a
negative view, they abhor it. This could have been influenced by background of
such people when they witnessed bad marriages. If you are having this problem
you are under anti-marriage attacks. Marriage is God’s idea and should never be
hated.
4. Being jilted: If you are in a
relationship, being jilted is not good unless it is God’s way to the better.
Some are jilted when they are about to wed. Some are jilted with few months in
the relationship and some at the middle of a relationship. This spirits cause one
person in the relationship to made hateful to the other or both hateful to each
other. Do not just take being jilted as a thing to be taken for granted. For
some it has been a trend. Right now you are in another relationship after being
jilted from that other relationship. You have great hope for this current
relationship. But remember if you are not delivered from anti-marriage spirits
you won’t win. Some young men also have a challenge of proposing and dumping
girls. You are under an attack brother.
5. No proposal for courtship: This attack mainly attack girls but
also young men. In your whole life no one propose love to you with the
intention of settling down. Some of your friends go but you are left out. Some
young men feel content in their state of not being married. Though there is
time for everything, you must also check if there are no spirits behind. A word
of caution is that we should not quickly rush to demonic attack if one is not
having some proposals.
6. Wrong decisions: This attack
makes people to make wrong decisions about relationships and marriage. Because
of this you always get wrong people for marriage. Many people are crying
because of the decisions they made in life. Have you ever analyzed your
marriage decisions? How have they pushed you into the corner? You are crying
right now. Check. You are under an attack. You are not going anywhere.
7. Neglect or abandonment by the
opposite sex: This almost similar to being jilted but different in that the
relationship is not over. The relationship continues but there is emotional
neglect and abandonment. The spirit keeps the partners in different places, or
when something or a demon is placed between them by the witch or warlock doing
the work. They go anywhere you go with you as monitoring spirits and they block
favour from reaching you or your spouse.
8. Serious gynecological/pubic area problems:
Anti marriage spirits sometimes tamper with your sexual or private
parts. This will make you frustrated as you will see your future child bearing
life unattainable. In worse scenarios, the male sexual organ retracts, and the
female genital become narrow or even closes up. With this in real terms,
prospective partners will not be interested in you.
9. Attacks on your spouse: This attack is very common to many. These
spirits are jealous of your spouse and seek to harm them. Your partner can
be involved in an accident, become terribly sick, lose a job or be attacked by
robbers. Mysterious happenings can happen to your partner such that many have
cancelled their relationships because of these attacks.
HOW ANTI-MARRIAGE SPIRITS ATTACK YOUR
MARRIAGE JOURNEY
Idolatry
Idolatry is one the strongest
way many people are hooked up by anti-marriage spirits. Idolatry will cause
many people not to love God. As we are drawn away from God, the more we are
tied down by these spirits. We should put God first not just the idea of being
married. As we seek God, he will add all we want unto us. (Mt 6:33)
Anti-marriage spirits will also make us to be very emotional and rush out
things of marriage without consulting God. At time we also just go to God to
rubberstamp our choices. Listen carefully to God’s voice for your marriage. You
need a lot of discerning spirit as many voices will come to give you
‘direction’
Lack of Purpose
Many people are attacked by
anti-marriage spirits by lack of purpose. These demons make sure you don’t have
anything to call for life. You will be just idle. Many youth members are on a
bus stop of marriage, just waiting to be married. What are doing with your skill,
talent, attribute or gift that God has given you? People don’t know that as we
fulfill God’s purpose He is able to provide a partner to help in that vision of
grace. As you pursue your purpose, God
is faithful to provide a purposeful person. Rebekah got connected with her
godly spouse while doing something. Don’t just look at marriage but look at
what your purpose can do to your marriage. Never be a cage of anti-marriage
spirits which cause you to lack focus of life.
Premarital Sex
Sex is very spiritual such that
misuse and abuse invites demons into one’s life. Violating Biblical principles
on sex, you literally give the devil license to put you in a spiritual cage.
The Bible is clear of premarital sex. We are warned against all form of sexual
activity outside marriage. The demon of premarital sex will chase people who
are supposed to marry you. It is like you are invisible. Though you try to be
attractive as possible in the spiritual realm you are like not available. Anti-marriage
spirits have caused many people into fornication so that after sex no one will
like you for marriage.
Spiritual Marriages
Anti-marriage spirits also
attack people through spiritual marriages commonly called spiritual wives or
spiritual husbands. There is something called spiritual marriage. So many
singles that are unable to get married in the physical are already married to
certain spirits as far as the spiritual world is concerned. You will have a
clue if you regularly have sex in the dream, or wake up feeling sexually
aroused. Those intending to marry should fight hard to get out of the cage of
spiritual marriages.
Wrong associations
Anti-marriage spirits also make sure you are hooked up
with wrong people. (1 Cor 15:33). Don’t associate with the demon
possessed. Be careful of transference of spirits e.g. don't be always in
company of prostitutes. Two cannot walk together unless they agree. Some have
had their marriage route affected because of the association in sharing someone’s
things like, soap, sponge, clothes and shoes. The spirit is transferred to you
by contact with the property of the former victim. If that person has an anti
marriage spirit, you will be affected.
Unbroken covenants
Getting yourself into unholy
covenants is binding yourself into a cage. A covenant is an agreement binding
on two or more parties. There is a particularly important hidden covenant that
doesn’t get mentioned all that often. You need to be aware of it when dealing
with the subject of your godly spouse. Some get into covenants through rituals
and some through sexual encounters. This can hinder many from getting married.
Make sure you deal with these covenants before you think of settling down.
Unholy dressing
Many Christians especially girls
enter into anti-marriage spiritual bondages because of insisting to dress like
the people of the world. Though this is a controversial, I insist that many end
up attracting the unwanted attention of spirit beings. Many girls have lured
evil men because of their sexy dressing. These people are never for marriage
but to just sleep with them hindering them to get genuine marriage prospects. Never
drive away drive away God-ordained partners unintentionally because of unholy
dressing. You may say dressing doesn’t matter but I insist many men may ignore
you for marriage.
Evil manipulators
The evil spirits sometimes come
with the deception of matchmaking. When presented to you see the best of you
receiving the best partner ever. We need to open our eyes if what we are being
presented with is from God. Many have been manipulated and became hooked with
counterfeit partners. Some because of desperation become unequally yoked/hooked
with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6 verse 14).
Family Spirits
Family
spirits are spirits which follow generations especially from ancestors. It is
passed down through the generations by inheritance. These are dangerous spirits
and they are manifested in families when you see family members who never
marry, marry late, attempt to marry but fail, divorce and separate from their
spouses. Family spirits in most cases
cause broken and dysfunctional marriages.
HOW
TO BE DELIVERED FROM ANTI-MARRIAGE SPIRITS
·
Counseling (Proverbs 11:14): Counseling is a platform of intentional accountability and
submission. It is sad that many young people have fallen prey to the wiles of
the devil because of the lack of counseling.
Counseling brings guidance as how to handle life as far as marriage is
concerned. For those already bound by
anti-marriage spirits, counseling will bring healing and restoration. Hope
is brought back into picture for the hopeless. Bad decisions are eliminated,
wrong is corrected and blind spots are exposed. Be wise enough to engage in
discussions about your life with those mature people who know you well. This
will bring intentional choices and feedback about your life.
·
Seek
deliverance: Anti-marriage spirits are evil and
as such those bound must seek deliverance. Make yourself accountable to a
spiritual authority, who may be a pastor or a mature believer who is used in
deliverance. Deliverance is a spiritual exercise to set you free. You need
someone to share your challenges and struggles with. Spiritual authorities will
encourage you and monitor you as far as your decision to break free is
concerned. They can also evaluate your
plan to stop any thoughts and behaviors that lead you into bondage.
·
Destroy all devil’s material:
The devil takes hold of you using the material which belongs to his kingdom. It
is not possible to expect deliverance and keep those materials which were
keeping you bound. If you want to be delivered from anti-marriage bondage you
must destroy any pornographic materials or satanic material in your possession.
Keeping devil’s material will make you fall into bondage. Today, deliberately
decide to wean yourself off from the devil.
·
Don’t
be idle: The devil attacks through the mind. An
idle mind is a good platform for all evil thoughts which manifest into evil
deeds. Therefore one needs to occupy the mind with good and progressive
thinking. Get busy with good things and if possible continue with an education
after school. Get that degree or certificate. Marriage worry uses the platform
of an idle mind.
·
The
Word of God. The
Word of God is your sword: a two-edged sword (Ephesians 6:17 and Hebrews 4:12).
There is nothing as powerful as the spoken Word of God. God’s Word
countering spiritual deception and accusations (See also Hebrews 4:12; Matthew
4:2-11; 1 Peter3:15; Psalm 119:110-112). The two greatest enemies on the universe are the
devil and ignorance. (Hosea 4:6) If you are ignorant of what the word of God
says about deliverance demons will always defeat you. Jesus used the word to defeat Satan.
(Mat.4:3-11) Memorise all the scriptures that speak about deliverance, the
weapons, authority or that speak about the conditions for deliverance. The word
of God is light. (Psalm 119:105,130) Light always drives away darkness and in
like manner the word of God drives away Satan and his demons.
·
Prayer
and Fasting. This humbles the person before
God. Under the guidance of the Holy Spirit fasting should be used when and how
as directed by God. It can bring spiritual release when needed (See Psalm 35:13
and Isaiah 58:6-7). Fasting places us in the position to receive from God’s
hand protection from harm and victory over the Enemy of our soul. It is not
that God withholds these blessings from us but that we have been blindsided by
the Enemy into living below our privilege. Fasting and prayer open our eyes to
see things in right perspective so that we cast off our insecurity complex and
embrace an expectation of continual blessing and favor.
·
The
Blood of Jesus: The book of Revelation states that a person
will overcome the enemy by the blood of the Lamb and by the person’s testimony
(Revelation 12:11). Only by His Blood a person can be justified (Romans 5:9). The blood of Jesus is very powerful in casting out
devils and in offering protection after deliverance. (Ex.12:13, Rev.12:11)
·
Know That The
Devil Is Defeated: In Hosea 4:6 God
says, " My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou has
rejected knowledge..." This means Christians can reject knowledge and get
destroyed. When you don't know that the devil is defeated, he capitalises on
your ignorance and whips you all the time. You have to know that the devil has
been on the run since the foundation of the worlds. He was defeated in heaven
(Rev. 12:7-12). His defeat was decreed in Gen. 3:15. He was utterly destroyed,
stripped of his power on the cross. (Col.2:15). The devil has been
stripped of all power. He uses deceptive power. When he deceives you to think
he has power, he begins to exercise power over you. All power is in the hands
is in the hands of Jesus. Mat.28:18). Remember you are facing a headless
(Gen.3:15), destroyed (Heb.2:14) enemy who has been stripped of all authority
(Col.2:15).
·
Company
and association: Many of our youth are
bound by anti-marriage spirits because of bad companions. Bad character is
contagious if you allow it. The youths should be careful of their
associations. You
are a product of the people you choose to interact with. Make every effort to
have people in your life that can help you achieve the best of your character.
This is because iron sharpens iron. The youth must strive to establish
companionship that adds value to them. They must identify people of good
character and learn something from them. He that companies with the wise shall
be wise (Prov 13:20). Don’t be part of associations that tolerate bondage. If you
circle yourself with people of bad character they will never inspire you to
develop your own life to holiness and right living. As such the youth
must not neglect fellowship at Church as this is a conducive environment to
develop their morals. Associate with people who encourage you in your journey
to your marriage.
PRAYER
FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
- Lord, God lead me to a faithful
partner in whom I will cherish. Give the best Father. I thank you. In
Jesus Christ Name. Amen.
- Father God, protect me from all
the wiles of the enemy as I seek to walk in my marriage journey. I thank
you in Jesus Christ Name. Amen.
- The Lord, who is faithful,
guide me Oh Lord that I may not be lost in the journey to my marriage. I
thank you. In Jesus Christ Name. Amen.
- I declare and decree success in
my marriage walk. The God of promises. Amen.
- In the name of Jesus Christ, I
bind any evil spirits that are projecting evil thoughts. I reject any evil
thought which may try to get hold of me. I declare the peace of Christ in
my mind.
About the author
John Museredzo is a
relationship expert with a bias towards the youth and family relationships | an
author | motivational speaker | pastor | life coach | business consultant | blogger.
He is an author of 5 books to date including The Dream In The Wilderness; Youth, Relationships and Marriage, In
Pursuit of The Calling and Success Within Reach. He also does articles and
seminars online and in colleges, universities and development organizations.
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