7 TYPES OF BAD SPOUSES

7 TYPES OF BAD SPOUSES

• The Yes Spouse: This spouse is quick to agree but slow to deliver. Every item is always YES. The Yes spouses leave a trail of unfulfilled commitments and broken promises. Yes spouses over-commit to please.
• The Maybe spouse: When faced with a crucial decision, the Maybe spouses are not predictable. You are not sure of them because to them it is ‘maybe I will’
• The Nothing spouse: You can’t know what’s going on because the Nothing spouse tells you nothing—no feedback, verbal or nonverbal. They are the reserved ones. If you ask them the answer is ‘nothing’
• The No spouse: This spouse is the negatively rigid ones. This one defends his or her cause by saying, ‘I’m not being negative, I’m being realistic.’ Even if there is an obvious yes, they are doleful and discouraging with their NO.
• The Grenade spouse: This spouse explodes in tantrums that seem disproportionate to the present circumstances, sending the other partner ducking for cover and wondering what it’s all about. These are too emotional and can explode any time.
• The Know-It-All spouse: This spouse knows everything about every subject. They are not ready to hear or listen from the other spouse about ideas or suggestion. They are related to The Think-They-Know-It-All. These once even if they don’t know that much, they don’t let that get in the way.
• The Bulldozer spouse: The spouse is pushy and ruthless, loud and forceful. If you are in their way, you will be eliminated.

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DEALING WITH SEXUAL BUGS

DEALING WITH SEXUAL BUGS

1. Acknowledge that you are wrong

The Bible challenges the people to recognize their sin and to receive Christ as Saviour. Many people live a life of self defence. They do not want to admit that they are wrong. For any kind of deliverance the first point of call is to admit that you are addicted to sexual sins and what you are doing is wrong. Denying that you are wrong and defending yourself is blocking the need for overcoming sexual bugs and may not be the solution. Never try to justify your problem and raise the ‘good’ reasons behind surfing nude pictures.

2. Recognize you need help and willing to change

It is not enough to just acknowledge that you are wrong. When you acknowledge that you are wrong you need to recognize and admit that you are in need of help. When you do that you open access and an avenue to your deliverance from being bound. When you recognize that you need help you must yield to the will of God for Him to begin a new life in you.

He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion ~ Proverbs 28:13.

Some do not want to change just because they think that it is not possible to change. Many people understand they are wrong and they know they need help but they are not ready to change. You can never change until you are willing. Change is a deliberate move. It is true that we may not be feeling like changing but we can decide to do it for our own sake.

3. Seek help and confess

The truth is that when you try to keep sin a secret, your spirit will become increasingly troubled and haunted. Therefore, if you have a problem of pornography addiction, you must seek help and be counselled. Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority, who may be a pastor or a mature believer. You need someone to share your challenges and struggles with.

I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity I did not hide; I said, 'I will confess my transgressions to the LORD'; And You forgave the guilt of my sin ~ Psalm 32:5.

If you are bound you may also need prayer of deliverance from the sin and the spirits associated with it. You need to sever any relationship which may encourage the destructive behavior. There is also the power of confession. Confession is exposing the sin and the devil that pushes you to act badly.

4. Be conformed to the Word of God

The word of God is the best solution to every evil deed. When we let the word of God rule in us we are actually surrendering to the will of God and letting Him take control of our life. Every youth must have a habit of reading the Word of God for the transformation of the mind (Romans 12:2).

Mediation of the word of God will make us subject to the Word and reject all evil thoughts and replace it with the truth. Prayer and meditation of Bible verses is a great way of mirroring yourself against what God thinks of you and how your life should be. Married people must also replace junk music with powerful worship music as a way of inviting God’s presence.

5. Avoid tempting moments

When you are on the road map to recovery you can’t be found visiting pornographic sites again. Make every effort to flee from temptation. The fire which once burnt you is still in existence and you can’t fool yourself that you will never be burnt. Be careful of your friends and who you spend your day with. Do not follow the counsel of the wicked and evil men. Turn your eye from everything no matter how tempting it is AND be committed to a holy life.

6. Destroy all pornographic material

The devil takes hold of you using the material which belongs to his kingdom. It is not possible to expect deliverance and keep those materials which were keeping you bound. If you want to be delivered from pornographic bondage and overcome pornography addiction you must destroy any pornographic materials in your possession. Keeping pornographic material will make you fall into temptation of constantly wanting to refer to the material. Today, deliberately decide to wean yourself off pornography.

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