KEYS TO EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
6 Rs FOR EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
A human being is a relational being. You cannot avoid relationships in life. It maybe at family level, social level, organisational or institutional level. For these relationships to work parties to a relationship should utilise the keys below:
1. Respect
Many relationships fail because of lack of respect. Respect is mutual. Many times we think it is the junior who should respect the senior. Respect is a matter of the heart and has nothing to do with positions. There are many pastors who do not respect the congregation they lead, managers who do not respect their subordinates, employers who do not respect their employees and even husbands who do not respect their wives. Respect is not demanded but earned. Many organisations are full of leaders who demand respect and they are surprised that the more they demand it the more they don't get it. If we understand that we are the image of God we will able to respect. However pride had limited many people to respect others in a relationship set up Respect is hinged on the spirit of servanthood.
2. Reciprocity
Relationship building is a two way street way. Many people expect others to make effort to build a relationship when they are relaxed. It is abuse to expect one part to a relationship to make effort to build a relationship. You have a role to play for that relationship to stand. If you want to be respected then respect also, if you want to be given, then start to give, if you want great company desire to be in company. Relationship is transaction which doesn't involve one person. In this transaction, when we help each other to build relationships, organisations, families and institutions will live in greatness.
3. Responsibility of actions
Relationships only survive because of responsibility of people in the relationship. All the actions we do in a relationship we should be responsible for the them. Many relationships are made up of people who have a blame game. If anything goes wrong in a relationship and we are responsible , are we able to own up. Husbands shift blame when they mess up, some pastors shift blame when they mess up, directors shift blame when they mess up and the list goes on. This is bad for any relationship. When a part to a relationship is blamed for actions they have not done they are bound to shut down or switch off from that relationship.
4. Restoration
In any relationship setup , many a time there is bound to be crossing of paths. There are bound to be conflicts and disagreements. When that happens there should be restoration mechanisms. This include conflict resolution, forgiveness, counselling and so on. Many divorces, church splits, company shut downs were caused by people who didn't want to restore relations. It is sad that many institutions want to be great when using a wounded team. In the same institution, there are offended people and ones who have offended others. Many strained relations can be restored if we become realistic and understand that we need each other. Decide today to restore that relationship.
5. Receptive heart
A relationship is based on a receptive heart. Many people have closed hearts such that they are skeptic of any move to a relationship. You cannot grow in a relationship whether institutional or social if you are not ready to receive another person in your heart. Some people, because of their background they have told themselves that they are unlovable. Sometimes it is because of inferiority complex. For you to be received, you should be able to receive others.
6. Roadmap
For any relationship to work there must be a road map. The road map include purpose and objectives of the relationship, the motive behind entering in that relationship and also relationship building blocks. Some relationships are not worth it. They waste time for you. Some relationships are temporary and some are permanent. Ask yourself, why am I in that relationship.
John Museredzo is a pastor / author / business consultant / speaker. Contact +263775127589
Tuesday 16 August 2016
Wednesday 10 August 2016
JESUS' MODEL OF LEADERSHIP
JESUS’ MODEL OF LEADERSHIP
.....the woman went back to the town and said to the people, “Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?” They came out of the town and made their way toward him. ~ John 4:28-30
The challenge we have as leaders is trying to change the whole world alone. A good leader touches individuals through an individual or a small group of individuals who will then touch the whole world. In fact we cannot be everywhere. Even not every people can read our books or hear us. Leaders who only think about themselves as the ULTIMATE in world transformation are bound to fail. Do not fool yourself. Touch a person at a time and those who will touch others.
It is painful that today the leader is competing against the person whom he is grooming to touch the world. The mentor is competing with the mentee. The mentor is being jealousy on the growth of the mentee. The spiritual father is competing with the spiritual son. In fact the spiritual father is busy stealing the spiritual son’s church members. The bishop or apostle competes with their own pastors they lead. The manager competes with their subordinates.
Imagine what would have happened if Jesus would have turned away the people who were brought through the Samaritan woman. Organizations are not growing because of leaders who are fixing people who should propel the organization forward. Leaders do not grow if they want to get credit for everything which happens in the organization. It should also be noted that the Samaritan woman did not draw people to herself. She said, ‘Come; see a man…….’ In our leadership we will fail if we want and demand credit when in fact we are acting on someone’s behalf. It should also wise to speak about the person who has influenced or impacted you, if you are to go far.
Today, as a leader make an effort to release and your mentee to touch the world. Release and develop that youth member. Never compete with somebody you are trying to develop. You will grow more when you touch and influence more individuals. In fact through that individual, you will go far in your leadership.
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the Word of God. +263775127589
BOOK TITLE FORMULATION
BOOK TITLE FORMULATION
This is one of the most critical part of your book. This stage puzzles and confuse most authors. Many authors are stuck on this stage. The issue is that if you are not careful you will be having a lot of options at your disposal. In fact 'many advisors' would want to come to your rescue. If you are not careful you can produce a very good book but with a title thrown or imposed on you. This stage needs a lot of imagination.
Though this list is not exhaustive, these qualities of a title of a book could help:
1. Original: it's cowardice to copy and paste titles. Show that it's your title.
2. Not too long: too long a title could be preemptive of all what's in the book.
3. Not too short: people may struggle to understand what to you want to say.
4. Specific and not ambiguous: the title must not have lots of interpretation at face value.
5. Captivating and not too dull: the title is part of the cover of a book and should be captivating.
6. Simple and not too complicated: simplicity is the greatest channel to touch a complicated world.
7. Captures your thoughts in the book: some authors fall in a temptation of having a title which is divorced from the contents of the book.
8. Permanance: unless it for volumes or you intent to change the contents of the book, the title should speak into eternity. There is no need to continously change the title
I am glad you are going to pick that book and make it ready for publishing.
John Museredzo is a pastor | motivational speaker | author | publishing consultant. + 263775127589
This is one of the most critical part of your book. This stage puzzles and confuse most authors. Many authors are stuck on this stage. The issue is that if you are not careful you will be having a lot of options at your disposal. In fact 'many advisors' would want to come to your rescue. If you are not careful you can produce a very good book but with a title thrown or imposed on you. This stage needs a lot of imagination.
Though this list is not exhaustive, these qualities of a title of a book could help:
1. Original: it's cowardice to copy and paste titles. Show that it's your title.
2. Not too long: too long a title could be preemptive of all what's in the book.
3. Not too short: people may struggle to understand what to you want to say.
4. Specific and not ambiguous: the title must not have lots of interpretation at face value.
5. Captivating and not too dull: the title is part of the cover of a book and should be captivating.
6. Simple and not too complicated: simplicity is the greatest channel to touch a complicated world.
7. Captures your thoughts in the book: some authors fall in a temptation of having a title which is divorced from the contents of the book.
8. Permanance: unless it for volumes or you intent to change the contents of the book, the title should speak into eternity. There is no need to continously change the title
I am glad you are going to pick that book and make it ready for publishing.
John Museredzo is a pastor | motivational speaker | author | publishing consultant. + 263775127589
THE KINGDOM OF GOD
KINGDOM OF GOD TEACHING FOR HOME CELLS
WHAT IS THE KINGDOM OF GOD
Resources: Preach The Kingdom (pg 6), Hidden treasure (pg 7)
• It is the divine, Sovereign rule or reign of God, whether in heaven or on earth.
• It is the ruler-ship of God in the lives/ hearts of believers.. As Christians we are in the Kingdom of God because Jesus Christ reigns in our hearts, since we accepted Him as Lord and Saviour.
MEANING OF THE WORD ‘KINGDOM’
The word kingdom is made up of two words
a. king- a king who rules
b. dom, domain or dominion –this refers to a sphere of influence, the sphere of ruling, territory of rule, the area which a king has dominion over or subjects who are ruled or
Therefore a kingdom just means a territory under a king. When applied to the kingdom of god it then refers to the territory under the ruler-ship or dominion of God.
3 KINDS OF KINGDOMS (Hidden Treasure pg 19-21)
These are Kingdoms in the world:
• Kingdom of God - which is everlasting. It has no beginning and no ending. This kingdom leads to life.
• Kingdom of the devil - which is temporary. Has a beginning and an end. This kingdom leads to deaths and suffering in hell.
• Kingdom of man – this can be controlled by either God or devil
God has all the power. He is omnipotent. But the devil has some power, but not all the power. Devil is a king with his own subjects, i.e. fallen angels; demons (2 Cor. 4:3; Lk. 4:6) Which Kingdom is controlling your life?
NAMES OF THE KINGDOM OF GOD
Hidden Treasure (pg 9)
a. Kingdom of God
b. Kingdom of heaven
Used interchangeably with kingdom of God
Mt 19:23-24, “Then Jesus said to His disciples, “Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle that for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”
Kingdom of heaven used exclusively in Matthew (33 times)
Matthew written to Jews who thought it disrespectful to use God’s name too often.
c. Kingdom of the Son of Man (Mt 13:41)
d. Kingdom of Christ and of God (Eph 5:5)
e. Kingdom of our Lord and His Christ (Rev. 11:15)
f. My Kingdom (by Jesus in Lk 22:30)
HOW DOES ONE ENTER INTO THE KINGDOM
Hidden treasure pg 22-23
We don’t join the Kingdom but have to enter it only be repentance. Being in the choir, having a position in church or being a member of a church doesn’t necessarily make you a member of the kingdom. Be born again. Flesh and blood cannot inherit the Kingdom. To enter the Kingdom we need spiritual rebirth. (John 3: 1-20) One needs to confess, believe and accept Jesus and be saved (Jn 1:12; Rom 10:9). Entrance into the Kingdom of God is only through repentance and salvation (Jn 3:3, 5) Spiritual rebirth qualifies us to enter the Kingdom of God. There is need for righteousness for us to enter the Kingdom. (Mt 5:20 Mt 6:33)
MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT THE KINGDOM OF GOD
Hidden Treasure (pg 5,11-16)
1. The kingdom is the church and the church is the kingdom
2. The kingdom is only spiritual and doesn’t have physical effects. People will pray for them to get to heaven and don’t worry about life on this earth.
3. The kingdom is only materialistic and we should seek it to get blessed and issue of heaven does not matter.
WHAT IS THE NATURE OF THE KINGDOM
Hidden Treasure (pg 10,16)
• The kingdom is eternal: Dan 2:34-35, 44: 7:18Ps 145;13,Lk 1:31-33
• The Kingdom is spiritual: God is Spirit - we must worship God in spirit and in truth. (Jn. 18:36; Jn. 4:24;)
• The Kingdom of truth: The Kingdom of God is a Kingdom of truth. (Jn 18:36-38). Jn 14:16 says "Jesus is the truth." Knowledge of the truth sets us free (Jn 8:32). The Spirit of God leads us into all truth.
• The Kingdom of Love: Love is the principle rule of the Kingdom (1 Cor 13). The Kingdom through Jesus Christ reveals God's Love (John 3:16). Members of the Kingdom abide in Love. God is a God of love.
• The Kingdom of Light: We are transferred from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of Light. Members of the Kingdom are in the Light and they are the light of the world. God is Light and there is no darkness in Him. (I Jn 1:5,7; Jm 1:17; Jn 8:12, 1:4-5,9; Eph 5:8; Rev 21:23; Lk 2:32; Mt 5:14,16; Is. 60:1)
• The Kingdom of Righteousness, Peace and Joy: The Kingdom is a life of true holiness.The Kingdom of God is righteousness. This is God's righteousness, not Man's (Rom. 3:10; Rom 14:17; I Cor. 6:9-10; Mt 6:33)
• The Kingdom of Power and Authority: Jesus taught not only with his words but with His works. We have to believe his works (Jn 10:37-38) His ministry was followed by signs and wonders. 1Co 4:7, cc Ac 1:8
WHAT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE INDIVIDUAL BELIEVER IN THE KINGDOM
Resources: Preach The Kingdom (pg 2-10), Hidden Treasure (pg 30, 33-42)
• To act on the teachings of the King (Mt 7:24-27): We must live a life of love and compassion toward those in need, especially to those of the household of faith (Ga 6:10).
• To seek first the kingdom of God (Mt. 6:33)
• To do the will of the Father (Mt 5:10; 7:21): We must live a life of righteousness and holiness (Mt 5:20 Ro 6:9-10; Ga 5:19-21; Eph 5:5).
• Understand the Kingdom: We must seek to be counted worthy of the Kingdom of God (2Th 1:5).
• Extend the Kingdom: We must faithfully preach the Gospel of the Kingdom to all nations (Mt 24:14).
• We must be willing to sacrifice or deny all (sell all) to attain the Kingdom (Mt 13:44; Mt 13:45). We must not look back (Lk 9:62).
• We must serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear (Heb 12:28).
• We must seek to make our calling and election sure (2Pe 1:10-11). We must faithfully do the business of the King as we wait for His return (Lk 19:11-15).
• We must be willing forgive as the King has forgiven us (Mt 6:12; 14; 18:12-14).
• We must live lives of humility (Mt 5:3; 18:1-4).
• We must remain constantly prepared for the King’s appearing (Mt 25:1-13; Mk 9:47; 2Ti 4:18).
• We must pray for the manifestation of the kingdom on earth (Mt 5:10; Mk 11:12; Mt 6:19). We must do spiritual warfare against the kingdom of Satan (Mt 12:28; Lk 11:20). We must boldly demonstrate the power of the Kingdom (Lk 9:1-2; 10-11; 10:9-11; 16:17-20).
Prepared and compiled by Pastor John Museredzo +263775127589
WHAT IS THE KINGDOM OF GOD
Resources: Preach The Kingdom (pg 6), Hidden treasure (pg 7)
• It is the divine, Sovereign rule or reign of God, whether in heaven or on earth.
• It is the ruler-ship of God in the lives/ hearts of believers.. As Christians we are in the Kingdom of God because Jesus Christ reigns in our hearts, since we accepted Him as Lord and Saviour.
MEANING OF THE WORD ‘KINGDOM’
The word kingdom is made up of two words
a. king- a king who rules
b. dom, domain or dominion –this refers to a sphere of influence, the sphere of ruling, territory of rule, the area which a king has dominion over or subjects who are ruled or
Therefore a kingdom just means a territory under a king. When applied to the kingdom of god it then refers to the territory under the ruler-ship or dominion of God.
3 KINDS OF KINGDOMS (Hidden Treasure pg 19-21)
These are Kingdoms in the world:
• Kingdom of God - which is everlasting. It has no beginning and no ending. This kingdom leads to life.
• Kingdom of the devil - which is temporary. Has a beginning and an end. This kingdom leads to deaths and suffering in hell.
• Kingdom of man – this can be controlled by either God or devil
God has all the power. He is omnipotent. But the devil has some power, but not all the power. Devil is a king with his own subjects, i.e. fallen angels; demons (2 Cor. 4:3; Lk. 4:6) Which Kingdom is controlling your life?
NAMES OF THE KINGDOM OF GOD
Hidden Treasure (pg 9)
a. Kingdom of God
b. Kingdom of heaven
Used interchangeably with kingdom of God
Mt 19:23-24, “Then Jesus said to His disciples, “Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle that for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”
Kingdom of heaven used exclusively in Matthew (33 times)
Matthew written to Jews who thought it disrespectful to use God’s name too often.
c. Kingdom of the Son of Man (Mt 13:41)
d. Kingdom of Christ and of God (Eph 5:5)
e. Kingdom of our Lord and His Christ (Rev. 11:15)
f. My Kingdom (by Jesus in Lk 22:30)
HOW DOES ONE ENTER INTO THE KINGDOM
Hidden treasure pg 22-23
We don’t join the Kingdom but have to enter it only be repentance. Being in the choir, having a position in church or being a member of a church doesn’t necessarily make you a member of the kingdom. Be born again. Flesh and blood cannot inherit the Kingdom. To enter the Kingdom we need spiritual rebirth. (John 3: 1-20) One needs to confess, believe and accept Jesus and be saved (Jn 1:12; Rom 10:9). Entrance into the Kingdom of God is only through repentance and salvation (Jn 3:3, 5) Spiritual rebirth qualifies us to enter the Kingdom of God. There is need for righteousness for us to enter the Kingdom. (Mt 5:20 Mt 6:33)
MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT THE KINGDOM OF GOD
Hidden Treasure (pg 5,11-16)
1. The kingdom is the church and the church is the kingdom
2. The kingdom is only spiritual and doesn’t have physical effects. People will pray for them to get to heaven and don’t worry about life on this earth.
3. The kingdom is only materialistic and we should seek it to get blessed and issue of heaven does not matter.
WHAT IS THE NATURE OF THE KINGDOM
Hidden Treasure (pg 10,16)
• The kingdom is eternal: Dan 2:34-35, 44: 7:18Ps 145;13,Lk 1:31-33
• The Kingdom is spiritual: God is Spirit - we must worship God in spirit and in truth. (Jn. 18:36; Jn. 4:24;)
• The Kingdom of truth: The Kingdom of God is a Kingdom of truth. (Jn 18:36-38). Jn 14:16 says "Jesus is the truth." Knowledge of the truth sets us free (Jn 8:32). The Spirit of God leads us into all truth.
• The Kingdom of Love: Love is the principle rule of the Kingdom (1 Cor 13). The Kingdom through Jesus Christ reveals God's Love (John 3:16). Members of the Kingdom abide in Love. God is a God of love.
• The Kingdom of Light: We are transferred from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of Light. Members of the Kingdom are in the Light and they are the light of the world. God is Light and there is no darkness in Him. (I Jn 1:5,7; Jm 1:17; Jn 8:12, 1:4-5,9; Eph 5:8; Rev 21:23; Lk 2:32; Mt 5:14,16; Is. 60:1)
• The Kingdom of Righteousness, Peace and Joy: The Kingdom is a life of true holiness.The Kingdom of God is righteousness. This is God's righteousness, not Man's (Rom. 3:10; Rom 14:17; I Cor. 6:9-10; Mt 6:33)
• The Kingdom of Power and Authority: Jesus taught not only with his words but with His works. We have to believe his works (Jn 10:37-38) His ministry was followed by signs and wonders. 1Co 4:7, cc Ac 1:8
WHAT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE INDIVIDUAL BELIEVER IN THE KINGDOM
Resources: Preach The Kingdom (pg 2-10), Hidden Treasure (pg 30, 33-42)
• To act on the teachings of the King (Mt 7:24-27): We must live a life of love and compassion toward those in need, especially to those of the household of faith (Ga 6:10).
• To seek first the kingdom of God (Mt. 6:33)
• To do the will of the Father (Mt 5:10; 7:21): We must live a life of righteousness and holiness (Mt 5:20 Ro 6:9-10; Ga 5:19-21; Eph 5:5).
• Understand the Kingdom: We must seek to be counted worthy of the Kingdom of God (2Th 1:5).
• Extend the Kingdom: We must faithfully preach the Gospel of the Kingdom to all nations (Mt 24:14).
• We must be willing to sacrifice or deny all (sell all) to attain the Kingdom (Mt 13:44; Mt 13:45). We must not look back (Lk 9:62).
• We must serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear (Heb 12:28).
• We must seek to make our calling and election sure (2Pe 1:10-11). We must faithfully do the business of the King as we wait for His return (Lk 19:11-15).
• We must be willing forgive as the King has forgiven us (Mt 6:12; 14; 18:12-14).
• We must live lives of humility (Mt 5:3; 18:1-4).
• We must remain constantly prepared for the King’s appearing (Mt 25:1-13; Mk 9:47; 2Ti 4:18).
• We must pray for the manifestation of the kingdom on earth (Mt 5:10; Mk 11:12; Mt 6:19). We must do spiritual warfare against the kingdom of Satan (Mt 12:28; Lk 11:20). We must boldly demonstrate the power of the Kingdom (Lk 9:1-2; 10-11; 10:9-11; 16:17-20).
Prepared and compiled by Pastor John Museredzo +263775127589
KEYS TO OVERCOME OFFENCES
KEYS TO OVERCOME OFFENCES
This lecture is based on the teaching by Apostle Prof Ezekiel Guti in the books: The Key To Overcome Offences and Respect That Brings Godliness
Many people cannot function properly in their calling because of wounds and hurts that offenses have caused in their lives. (Apostle EH Guti pg 3)
What is an offence?
Offend comes from the Greek word skandalon mean to trap. Many times those who are offended don’t know that they are in the trap of the devil.
Reality of offences
As long we are on this earth we will encounter offenses (Luke 17, Mk 9:42). You can’t avoid the offenses but you can by your attitude.
Personalities in offences
• The offender: this is the initiator of the offense
• The offended: this the person to whom the offense has been administered
Types of offenders
• Deliberate offenders: These just like to offend others
• Flexible offenders: when faced with a need to rectify offences they are forthcoming.
• Rigid offenders: These will never change and are adamant because they think they are right.
Types of The Offended
• Genuinely offended: These people are genuinely and unjustly offended.
• Pretenders: They pretended to have been offended when they are not.
• Those who think have been offended when they are not.
Manifestation or Effects of Offences
A brother who is offended is hard to win- Prov 18:9
• Hurt and bitterness
• Hate and enmity
• Jealousy
• Quarrelling, insults, accusations and provocations
• Relationship destruction caused by disagreements
• Betrayals
• Backsliding
• Defensiveness: some build a wall around themselves to protect themselves from further hurt.
• Diseases
• Death
What offends people?
What offends people differs from person to person. Factors like spiritual maturity and background of the person comes into play. What offends another person may not offend another one. Therefore do not take people for granted.
Why do offenders offend others?
• Deliberate
• Evil heart
• Lack of respect: honor every person.
• Some are used by the Devil
• Some are used by God to try your faith and make you grow.
• Some are used by other people
• Background
• Environment/Situation
• Selfishness and pride
Responses To Offenses: How Can we Deal with Offences.
Our responses to any offenses determine our future.
• Humility: pride doesn’t want us to admit that we are heart and offended.
• Maturity
• Wisdom
• Full of the spirit
• Forgiveness
• Counseling
• Full of the Word
• Bless and love those who offend you (Mt 5:44)
• Positive attitude: do not focus on the wrong.
• Prayer and fasting
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the Word. +263775127589
This lecture is based on the teaching by Apostle Prof Ezekiel Guti in the books: The Key To Overcome Offences and Respect That Brings Godliness
Many people cannot function properly in their calling because of wounds and hurts that offenses have caused in their lives. (Apostle EH Guti pg 3)
What is an offence?
Offend comes from the Greek word skandalon mean to trap. Many times those who are offended don’t know that they are in the trap of the devil.
Reality of offences
As long we are on this earth we will encounter offenses (Luke 17, Mk 9:42). You can’t avoid the offenses but you can by your attitude.
Personalities in offences
• The offender: this is the initiator of the offense
• The offended: this the person to whom the offense has been administered
Types of offenders
• Deliberate offenders: These just like to offend others
• Flexible offenders: when faced with a need to rectify offences they are forthcoming.
• Rigid offenders: These will never change and are adamant because they think they are right.
Types of The Offended
• Genuinely offended: These people are genuinely and unjustly offended.
• Pretenders: They pretended to have been offended when they are not.
• Those who think have been offended when they are not.
Manifestation or Effects of Offences
A brother who is offended is hard to win- Prov 18:9
• Hurt and bitterness
• Hate and enmity
• Jealousy
• Quarrelling, insults, accusations and provocations
• Relationship destruction caused by disagreements
• Betrayals
• Backsliding
• Defensiveness: some build a wall around themselves to protect themselves from further hurt.
• Diseases
• Death
What offends people?
What offends people differs from person to person. Factors like spiritual maturity and background of the person comes into play. What offends another person may not offend another one. Therefore do not take people for granted.
Why do offenders offend others?
• Deliberate
• Evil heart
• Lack of respect: honor every person.
• Some are used by the Devil
• Some are used by God to try your faith and make you grow.
• Some are used by other people
• Background
• Environment/Situation
• Selfishness and pride
Responses To Offenses: How Can we Deal with Offences.
Our responses to any offenses determine our future.
• Humility: pride doesn’t want us to admit that we are heart and offended.
• Maturity
• Wisdom
• Full of the spirit
• Forgiveness
• Counseling
• Full of the Word
• Bless and love those who offend you (Mt 5:44)
• Positive attitude: do not focus on the wrong.
• Prayer and fasting
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the Word. +263775127589
Thursday 4 August 2016
MARRIAGE AND ECONOMIC CRISIS
MARRIAGE AND ECONOMIC CRISIS
WISDOM TO SAIL THROUGH
Across the whole world in many countries there are situations of economic crisis. The causes can different ranging from poor economic policies, trade deficits, poor governance and political environment, corruption, drought and climatic issues. From a spiritual point of view, it could be attack from the devil who wants people to suffer.
It should be noted that in such a scenario, marriages are not spared. Because of this economic crisis, there is cash shortages, challenges in businesses, unemployment because companies are closing. Many marriages are shaking because of this phase (which I strongly believe will pass). Some are making or about to make disastrous decisions because of this economic crisis. Their decisions will affect their marriages for life. Check closely how economic crisis can affect OR has affected your marriage decisions.
Effect of Economic Crisis On Marriage Life
• Cheating: Some couples in relationships tend to cheat on each other. Many, because of financial challenges, will enter into multiple relationships so that they are given ‘more’ money to cater for their daily expenses. This is bad. Love is unconditional. Don’t cheat on your wife or husband because of the crisis.
• Divorce: Some couples are about to divorce or are divorcing because of the economic crisis. It could be the man who feels that he can no longer able to support the family. It could also be the woman who will see it not necessary to continue in a marriage or relationship in which the head is not sustainably and gainful employed or financially stable.
• Disrespect: If couples are not careful they may have disrespect for each other because of the economic crisis. You may call each other names, blame each other, angry on each other or even fight because of the situation. That honnie has now become some rubbish. That chocolate has now become a monster.
• Loss of Love and Communication: Suddenly the home becomes quiet, there is no more fire. There is no life in the marriage. Love is now a stranger in your marriage.
• Diseases and death: This is a serious case if not managed well. Some couples because of stress and high blood pressure will develop other off shoot diseases. Some will lose appetite because of thinking too much. Some will lose weight and develop cancer problems and unfortunately some die. Oh my God, Lord have mercy.
How To Sail Through In Your Marriage
• Continue loving each other: There is no reason to have love based on economy. Love the person regardless of the economy.
* Revisit your budget: In this era you need to remove some unnecessary luxuries you can't afford from your budget. This is wisdom.
• Supplementary finances: In this times have more financial streams. Don’t depend on that job or just one business. If possible the wife can get a job. In fact the wife has to be industrious like the wife of Proverbs 31. Do not be just a housewife without any benefit. You are helpmeet.
• Have faith in God: Believe in God and have faith in Him. He will protect your marriage in such a time as this. Have time to pray for your country and read the Bible to see how God had providences in time past. Do not develop fear. Fear is a killer.
John Museredzo is a relationships expert with a bias towards the youth and family counseling. Contact him on +263775127589 for counseling, articles, books and mentorship.
WISDOM TO SAIL THROUGH
Across the whole world in many countries there are situations of economic crisis. The causes can different ranging from poor economic policies, trade deficits, poor governance and political environment, corruption, drought and climatic issues. From a spiritual point of view, it could be attack from the devil who wants people to suffer.
It should be noted that in such a scenario, marriages are not spared. Because of this economic crisis, there is cash shortages, challenges in businesses, unemployment because companies are closing. Many marriages are shaking because of this phase (which I strongly believe will pass). Some are making or about to make disastrous decisions because of this economic crisis. Their decisions will affect their marriages for life. Check closely how economic crisis can affect OR has affected your marriage decisions.
Effect of Economic Crisis On Marriage Life
• Cheating: Some couples in relationships tend to cheat on each other. Many, because of financial challenges, will enter into multiple relationships so that they are given ‘more’ money to cater for their daily expenses. This is bad. Love is unconditional. Don’t cheat on your wife or husband because of the crisis.
• Divorce: Some couples are about to divorce or are divorcing because of the economic crisis. It could be the man who feels that he can no longer able to support the family. It could also be the woman who will see it not necessary to continue in a marriage or relationship in which the head is not sustainably and gainful employed or financially stable.
• Disrespect: If couples are not careful they may have disrespect for each other because of the economic crisis. You may call each other names, blame each other, angry on each other or even fight because of the situation. That honnie has now become some rubbish. That chocolate has now become a monster.
• Loss of Love and Communication: Suddenly the home becomes quiet, there is no more fire. There is no life in the marriage. Love is now a stranger in your marriage.
• Diseases and death: This is a serious case if not managed well. Some couples because of stress and high blood pressure will develop other off shoot diseases. Some will lose appetite because of thinking too much. Some will lose weight and develop cancer problems and unfortunately some die. Oh my God, Lord have mercy.
How To Sail Through In Your Marriage
• Continue loving each other: There is no reason to have love based on economy. Love the person regardless of the economy.
* Revisit your budget: In this era you need to remove some unnecessary luxuries you can't afford from your budget. This is wisdom.
• Supplementary finances: In this times have more financial streams. Don’t depend on that job or just one business. If possible the wife can get a job. In fact the wife has to be industrious like the wife of Proverbs 31. Do not be just a housewife without any benefit. You are helpmeet.
• Have faith in God: Believe in God and have faith in Him. He will protect your marriage in such a time as this. Have time to pray for your country and read the Bible to see how God had providences in time past. Do not develop fear. Fear is a killer.
John Museredzo is a relationships expert with a bias towards the youth and family counseling. Contact him on +263775127589 for counseling, articles, books and mentorship.
HOW TO WAIT FOR MARRIAGE
HOW TO WAIT FOR MARRIAGE
1. Wait upon yourself
Many a times we want to rush ourselves into marriage. Some have been married too early by wanting to get married. Some even went out to look for marriage. Wait upon yourself. Don't rush. Don't be too desperate to forget yourself. Many lost their senses because of looking for marriage.
2. Wait upon your purpose
Are you now in picture of your purpose in life. Many people lost their purpose track by being married. Would you continue praise n worship, would you continue preaching, would you continue writing. Purpose is not stopped by marriage but in fact it should be enhanced. Before marriage, discover your purpose. Don't be on the bus stop of marriage doing nothing.
3. Wait upon others
Some concentrated on marriage to the extent that they lost their social circle. They are in their own world. They go into an island. Marriage is not another planet. You are still on earth. You still need others
4. Wait upon God
Don't lose God because of marriage. Don't be too desperate to forget God because no marriage is in picture. Have patience as you wait for the marriage. Believe in God. Have faith in God.
John Museredzo is a marriage counsellor, youth pastor, author. + 263775127589 for counselling and mentorship.
1. Wait upon yourself
Many a times we want to rush ourselves into marriage. Some have been married too early by wanting to get married. Some even went out to look for marriage. Wait upon yourself. Don't rush. Don't be too desperate to forget yourself. Many lost their senses because of looking for marriage.
2. Wait upon your purpose
Are you now in picture of your purpose in life. Many people lost their purpose track by being married. Would you continue praise n worship, would you continue preaching, would you continue writing. Purpose is not stopped by marriage but in fact it should be enhanced. Before marriage, discover your purpose. Don't be on the bus stop of marriage doing nothing.
3. Wait upon others
Some concentrated on marriage to the extent that they lost their social circle. They are in their own world. They go into an island. Marriage is not another planet. You are still on earth. You still need others
4. Wait upon God
Don't lose God because of marriage. Don't be too desperate to forget God because no marriage is in picture. Have patience as you wait for the marriage. Believe in God. Have faith in God.
John Museredzo is a marriage counsellor, youth pastor, author. + 263775127589 for counselling and mentorship.
THE WAR AGAINST YOUR VISION
THE WAR AGAINST YOUR VISION
TOBIAH IS NOT ALONE AGAINST YOUR VISION
But when Sanballat, Tobiah, the Arabs, the Ammonites and the people of Ashdod heard that the repairs to Jerusalem’s walls had gone ahead and that the gaps were being closed, they were very angry. They all plotted together to come and fight against Jerusalem and stir up trouble against it. ~ Neh 4:7-8
When word came to Sanballat, Tobiah, Geshem the Arab and the rest of our enemies that I had rebuilt the wall and not a gap was left in it—though up to that time I had not set the doors in the gates— Sanballat and Geshem sent me this message: “Come, let us meet together in one of the villages c on the plain of Ono.” But they were scheming to harm me; ~ Neh 6:1- 2
In this expose we see Sanballat, Tobiah, Geshem the Arab, the Amonites and the rest of the army conspiring against just one man with a vision to rebuild the wall. It was a coordinated plot. They were ready to cause havoc. Have you ever wondered why your case does not end, or why your vision is not coming to fruition? Spiritual warfare comes from an understanding on the kind and level of war you are fighting. Some wars are just ordinary and some are on another level.
Remember that in your case you are not fighting one demon or one personality. Your vision or dream is too big to be fought from one front or level. The moment you decide to fight Tobiah get ready for Sanballat or the Ammonites. The way you fight must not just be an ordinary one. The effort you must put must not be the ‘everyday’ status quo. Tobiah is not alone against your vision.
Sometimes we are defeated and cry in our warfare by not understanding the level and kind of war we are fighting. There are some wars we fight, which are very minor and do not require any effort. In many of the spiritual wars we fight, the spirit world has strong back up. Your case is not just one case. There are many spirits behind. The spirits know the principle of backup system which many Christians do not understand. They have a reserve army ready to pounce and devour on people. In fact they work in collaboration and conspiracy to knock you down. That is why that the spirits in that man had to says, ‘I am Legion because we are many’. Tobiah has a link with others. It’s another dimension. Tobiah is not alone against your vision.
Have you seen that, that poverty spirit is not alone? It has actually partnered with a prostitution spirit so that you are gone for good. That anti-marriage spirit has actually coordinated with sickness spirit such that you go away from marriage a diseased person. That spirit against your prosperity is actually in partnership with death spirit so that you perish in an accident. Today make a decision to take a census of what is against you. Devise a method to go against the evil partnership against you. It is going to be a do or die war. Know this that is another war, not the ordinary you used to know.
Affirmation
• My vision will come to pass.
• I will succeed in this war.
• Destiny is mine.
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the word of God. +263775127589
TOBIAH IS NOT ALONE AGAINST YOUR VISION
But when Sanballat, Tobiah, the Arabs, the Ammonites and the people of Ashdod heard that the repairs to Jerusalem’s walls had gone ahead and that the gaps were being closed, they were very angry. They all plotted together to come and fight against Jerusalem and stir up trouble against it. ~ Neh 4:7-8
When word came to Sanballat, Tobiah, Geshem the Arab and the rest of our enemies that I had rebuilt the wall and not a gap was left in it—though up to that time I had not set the doors in the gates— Sanballat and Geshem sent me this message: “Come, let us meet together in one of the villages c on the plain of Ono.” But they were scheming to harm me; ~ Neh 6:1- 2
In this expose we see Sanballat, Tobiah, Geshem the Arab, the Amonites and the rest of the army conspiring against just one man with a vision to rebuild the wall. It was a coordinated plot. They were ready to cause havoc. Have you ever wondered why your case does not end, or why your vision is not coming to fruition? Spiritual warfare comes from an understanding on the kind and level of war you are fighting. Some wars are just ordinary and some are on another level.
Remember that in your case you are not fighting one demon or one personality. Your vision or dream is too big to be fought from one front or level. The moment you decide to fight Tobiah get ready for Sanballat or the Ammonites. The way you fight must not just be an ordinary one. The effort you must put must not be the ‘everyday’ status quo. Tobiah is not alone against your vision.
Sometimes we are defeated and cry in our warfare by not understanding the level and kind of war we are fighting. There are some wars we fight, which are very minor and do not require any effort. In many of the spiritual wars we fight, the spirit world has strong back up. Your case is not just one case. There are many spirits behind. The spirits know the principle of backup system which many Christians do not understand. They have a reserve army ready to pounce and devour on people. In fact they work in collaboration and conspiracy to knock you down. That is why that the spirits in that man had to says, ‘I am Legion because we are many’. Tobiah has a link with others. It’s another dimension. Tobiah is not alone against your vision.
Have you seen that, that poverty spirit is not alone? It has actually partnered with a prostitution spirit so that you are gone for good. That anti-marriage spirit has actually coordinated with sickness spirit such that you go away from marriage a diseased person. That spirit against your prosperity is actually in partnership with death spirit so that you perish in an accident. Today make a decision to take a census of what is against you. Devise a method to go against the evil partnership against you. It is going to be a do or die war. Know this that is another war, not the ordinary you used to know.
Affirmation
• My vision will come to pass.
• I will succeed in this war.
• Destiny is mine.
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the word of God. +263775127589
Wednesday 3 August 2016
7 TYPES OF BAD SPOUSES
7 TYPES OF BAD SPOUSES
• The Yes Spouse: This spouse is quick to agree but slow to deliver. Every item is always YES. The Yes spouses leave a trail of unfulfilled commitments and broken promises. Yes spouses over-commit to please.
• The Maybe spouse: When faced with a crucial decision, the Maybe spouses are not predictable. You are not sure of them because to them it is ‘maybe I will’
• The Nothing spouse: You can’t know what’s going on because the Nothing spouse tells you nothing—no feedback, verbal or nonverbal. They are the reserved ones. If you ask them the answer is ‘nothing’
• The No spouse: This spouse is the negatively rigid ones. This one defends his or her cause by saying, ‘I’m not being negative, I’m being realistic.’ Even if there is an obvious yes, they are doleful and discouraging with their NO.
• The Grenade spouse: This spouse explodes in tantrums that seem disproportionate to the present circumstances, sending the other partner ducking for cover and wondering what it’s all about. These are too emotional and can explode any time.
• The Know-It-All spouse: This spouse knows everything about every subject. They are not ready to hear or listen from the other spouse about ideas or suggestion. They are related to The Think-They-Know-It-All. These once even if they don’t know that much, they don’t let that get in the way.
• The Bulldozer spouse: The spouse is pushy and ruthless, loud and forceful. If you are in their way, you will be eliminated.
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the Word of God. He is also an author of; ‘The Dream In The Wilderness’, ‘In Pursuit of The Calling’, ‘Youth, Relationships & Marriage’, ‘Youth and Sexual Purity’ and co-author of ‘Success Within Reach’. For all the resource material contact +263775127589
• The Yes Spouse: This spouse is quick to agree but slow to deliver. Every item is always YES. The Yes spouses leave a trail of unfulfilled commitments and broken promises. Yes spouses over-commit to please.
• The Maybe spouse: When faced with a crucial decision, the Maybe spouses are not predictable. You are not sure of them because to them it is ‘maybe I will’
• The Nothing spouse: You can’t know what’s going on because the Nothing spouse tells you nothing—no feedback, verbal or nonverbal. They are the reserved ones. If you ask them the answer is ‘nothing’
• The No spouse: This spouse is the negatively rigid ones. This one defends his or her cause by saying, ‘I’m not being negative, I’m being realistic.’ Even if there is an obvious yes, they are doleful and discouraging with their NO.
• The Grenade spouse: This spouse explodes in tantrums that seem disproportionate to the present circumstances, sending the other partner ducking for cover and wondering what it’s all about. These are too emotional and can explode any time.
• The Know-It-All spouse: This spouse knows everything about every subject. They are not ready to hear or listen from the other spouse about ideas or suggestion. They are related to The Think-They-Know-It-All. These once even if they don’t know that much, they don’t let that get in the way.
• The Bulldozer spouse: The spouse is pushy and ruthless, loud and forceful. If you are in their way, you will be eliminated.
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the Word of God. He is also an author of; ‘The Dream In The Wilderness’, ‘In Pursuit of The Calling’, ‘Youth, Relationships & Marriage’, ‘Youth and Sexual Purity’ and co-author of ‘Success Within Reach’. For all the resource material contact +263775127589
ANGER MANAGEMENT
WHEN ANGRY, REMEMBER....
Ephesians 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Today I will share with you one of the issues which troubles many people and this is anger. From the above scripture, it seems anger is expected but the caution there is not to sin especially through making the day end with that anger. Why? It is because when you prolong habitation of anger in you, it becomes part of you. Many people have lost opportunities because of anger. At the end when you do an assessment of why you were angry, you will see it was just a small matter. When you are angry remember;
1. Anger is an emotion. It affects your emotional balance.
2. Anger is spiritual, evil, demonic. Anger is a spirit. To prove that check how you feel when angry.
3. Anger has serious self inflicting damages. Some become angry to fix some people when in fact they are fixing themselves. Its like shooting someone with the gun pointing towards yourself. Some are sick because of anger and unfortunately some are dead. Some are in prison because of anger and some in hospital.
4. Anger has a major effect in relationships. Conflicts in families, societies, workplaces, schools are not managed because of angry individuals. Some have divorced because of the problem of anger.
5. Anger should never override our decision making process. Never should it envelop our decision making process or our character. Never make a major decision when you are angry, you will regret. We must not change our character because of anger. Some have changed their language because of anger. Some have preached messages intertwined in anger.
6. Anger must not lead to violence tendencies we see everyday in the world. Reaction to life in anger is not the solution. Let us be proactive.
7. Anger management should not be the focus but rather personal management. When we are able to manage ourselves, anger management becomes easy.
8. Anger is so funny in that when you are angry you think everyone is also angry. Be it known that it may be you only who is angry and others are happy and life goes on. Don't think 'we are many'
9. Anger is bad in that some become angry on behalf of others. You will be left with the dirtness of others.
10. Anger is not a solution to anything but it's actually a problem which increase more problems. It is not the end of problems but beginning of them.
Self Help Questions
1. Is it possible not to be angry
2. Why are you angry today? Is it worthy it?
3. What are you angry at?
4. What actions do you do when angry?
5. What can you do to deal with yourself and anger?
Today choose joy instead of anger. Don't drown in anger. Future is not ready for angry people.
John Museredzo is a passionate teacher of the Word of God. + 263775127589
WHEN POWER OVERRIDES LEADERSHIP
WHEN POWER OVERRIDES LEADERSHIP
In organizations, leaders start very well. They have passion for their organization and in serving people they lead. People look up to them. They are celebrated as the hero-figure. However as time goes by many leaders no longer have that leadership steam they started with. This is the time when power overrides the leader in them.
In your leadership if the following now happens, power has overridden your leadership:
1. Your leadership no longer protects the powerless but protects the powerful.
2. Your leadership twists laws and policies to your advantage at the expense of the followers.
3. Your leadership abuses and misuses the system for self gratification and ignores the suffering of your followers.
4. Your leadership no longer has conscience and power is no longer used for the common good.
5. Your leadership power is no longer for achievement of organizational goals but full of fear, intimidation, threats and dictatorial and monster tendencies.
6. Your leadership hand no longer has a helping dimension but a hurting and haunting phenomenon.
7. Your leadership has turned from triumph to terror and tribulations.
8. Your leadership is no longer about the organization but it has become more of you and you only: there are tendencies of self-centeredness and self-promotion.
9. Your leadership no longer promotes other leaders but sees every potential leader as a threat.
10. Your leadership becomes the center of power, forgetting the Ultimate power of God.
Today check your leadership scale and evaluate yourself. Leadership goes beyond you. Leadership scales higher than you.
Power is a tool which should be rightfully managed by leadership. If it is given freelance it has potential to kill the follower, the leader and the organization.
John Museredzo is a leadership expert with a passion for leadership growth and development. He is an author of various leadership and motivational books. Contact him on motivatebusinessworld@gmail.com or follow him on www.john.blogspot.com or +263775127589
In organizations, leaders start very well. They have passion for their organization and in serving people they lead. People look up to them. They are celebrated as the hero-figure. However as time goes by many leaders no longer have that leadership steam they started with. This is the time when power overrides the leader in them.
In your leadership if the following now happens, power has overridden your leadership:
1. Your leadership no longer protects the powerless but protects the powerful.
2. Your leadership twists laws and policies to your advantage at the expense of the followers.
3. Your leadership abuses and misuses the system for self gratification and ignores the suffering of your followers.
4. Your leadership no longer has conscience and power is no longer used for the common good.
5. Your leadership power is no longer for achievement of organizational goals but full of fear, intimidation, threats and dictatorial and monster tendencies.
6. Your leadership hand no longer has a helping dimension but a hurting and haunting phenomenon.
7. Your leadership has turned from triumph to terror and tribulations.
8. Your leadership is no longer about the organization but it has become more of you and you only: there are tendencies of self-centeredness and self-promotion.
9. Your leadership no longer promotes other leaders but sees every potential leader as a threat.
10. Your leadership becomes the center of power, forgetting the Ultimate power of God.
Today check your leadership scale and evaluate yourself. Leadership goes beyond you. Leadership scales higher than you.
Power is a tool which should be rightfully managed by leadership. If it is given freelance it has potential to kill the follower, the leader and the organization.
John Museredzo is a leadership expert with a passion for leadership growth and development. He is an author of various leadership and motivational books. Contact him on motivatebusinessworld@gmail.com or follow him on www.john.blogspot.com or +263775127589
How to benefit from your pastor’s home visitation by Pastor John Museredzo
• Do not take home visitation as burdensome.
• Do not take home visitation as infringement of privacy
• Never take home visitation as way of self enrichment by the pastor or as a way to collect things from you
• Do not try to lecture all the way while your pastor follows your speech
• If you have any prayer requests present to your pastor for intercession
• Do not try to take home visit as opportunity to teach your pastor
•Home visit is not an opportunity of gossip
• Home visit can be a good platform to sow a seed to your pastor without the pomp and glamour often associated with such when in a congregation. It is God who sees your gift
• Make sure you relate to your pastors anything you may want them to know about your life. Not every pastor is gifted to ‘prophesy’ about your life
. If you want you may agree on appointments or scheduled visits, so that the pastor will not disappointed by visiting when you are not around.
• Thank your pastor for sparing his or her time to visit you. It is their duty but appreciation is good.
Pastor John is a passionate teacher of the word. Link up on +263775127589
• Do not take home visitation as burdensome.
• Do not take home visitation as infringement of privacy
• Never take home visitation as way of self enrichment by the pastor or as a way to collect things from you
• Do not try to lecture all the way while your pastor follows your speech
• If you have any prayer requests present to your pastor for intercession
• Do not try to take home visit as opportunity to teach your pastor
•Home visit is not an opportunity of gossip
• Home visit can be a good platform to sow a seed to your pastor without the pomp and glamour often associated with such when in a congregation. It is God who sees your gift
• Make sure you relate to your pastors anything you may want them to know about your life. Not every pastor is gifted to ‘prophesy’ about your life
. If you want you may agree on appointments or scheduled visits, so that the pastor will not disappointed by visiting when you are not around.
• Thank your pastor for sparing his or her time to visit you. It is their duty but appreciation is good.
Pastor John is a passionate teacher of the word. Link up on +263775127589
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