KEYS TO EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
6 Rs FOR EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
A human being is a
relational being. You cannot avoid relationships in life. It may be at family
level, social level, organizational or institutional level. For these
relationships to work parties to a relationship should utilize the keys below:
Roadmap
For any relationship to
work there must be a road map. The road-map includes purpose and objectives of
the relationship, the motive behind entering in that relationship and also
relationship building blocks. Some relationships are not worth it. They waste
time for you. Some relationships are temporary and some are permanent. Ask
yourself, why am I in that relationship?
Receptive heart
A relationship is based
on a receptive heart. Many people have closed hearts such that they are skeptic
of any move to a relationship. You cannot grow in a relationship whether
institutional or social, if you are not ready to receive another person in your
heart. Some people, because of their background they have told themselves that
they are unlovable. Sometimes it is because of inferiority complex. For you to
be received, you should be able to receive others.
Respect
Many relationships fail
because of lack of respect. Respect is mutual. Many times we think it is the
junior who should respect the senior. Respect is a matter of the heart and has
nothing to do with positions. There are many pastors who do not respect the
congregation they lead, managers who do not respect their subordinates,
employers who do not respect their employees and even husbands who do not
respect their wives. Respect is not demanded but earned. Many
organizations are full of leaders who demand respect and they are surprised
that the more they demand it the more they don't get it. If we understand that
we are the image of God we will able to respect. However pride had limited many
people to respect others in a relationship set up Respect is hinged
on the spirit of servant-hood.
Reciprocity
Relationship building is
a two way street way. Many people expect others to make effort to build a
relationship when they are relaxed. It is abuse to expect one part to a
relationship to make effort to build a relationship. You have a role to play
for that relationship to stand. If you want to be respected then respect also,
if you want to be given, then start to give, if you want great company desire
to be in company. Relationship is transaction which doesn't involve one person.
In this transaction, when we help each other to build relationships,
organizations, families and institutions will live in greatness.
Responsibility of actions
Relationships only
survive because of responsibility of people in the relationship. All the
actions we do in a relationship we should be responsible for them. Many
relationships are made up of people who have a blame game. If anything goes
wrong in a relationship and we are responsible, are we able to own up. Husbands
shift blame when they mess up, some pastors shift blame when they mess up,
directors shift blame when they mess up and the list goes on. This is bad for
any relationship. When a part to a relationship is blamed for actions they have
not done they are bound to shut down or switch off from that relationship.
Restoration
In any relationship
setup, many a time there is bound to be crossing of paths. There are bound to
be conflicts and disagreements. When that happens there should be restoration
mechanisms. These include conflict resolution, forgiveness, counseling and so
on. Many divorces, church splits, company shut downs were caused by people who
didn't want to restore relations. It is sad that many institutions want to be
great when using a wounded team. In the same institution, there are offended
people and ones who have offended others. Many strained relations can be
restored if we become realistic and understand that we need each other. Decide
today to restore that relationship.
Self Help Exercise
·
How
do I exhibit a relationship attitude in my daily life?
·
Do
you consider yourself a person who can relate to others?
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What
can I do to develop a better attitude towards relationships?
·
In
what situation did you fail to be receptive as far as relationships are
concerned?
·
What
blocks relationships from working and being successful in my life?
John
Museredzo is a relationship expert with a bias towards the youth and family
relationships | an author | motivational speaker | pastor | life coach |
business consultant |blogger
He
is an author of 5 books to date including The
Dream In The Wilderness; Youth, Relationships and Marriage, In Pursuit of The
Calling and Success Within Reach. He also does articles and seminars online
and in colleges, universities and development organizations.
About the author
 |
John Museredzo is a
relationship expert with a bias towards the youth and family relationships | an
author | motivational speaker | pastor | life coach | business consultant |
blogger. He is an author of 5 books to date including The Dream In The Wilderness; Youth, Relationships and Marriage, In
Pursuit of The Calling and Success Within Reach. He also does articles and
seminars online and in colleges, universities and development organizations.
Contacts
Cell: +263775127589,
+263712154772a
Email: jhnmuseredzo@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/yehohanan.museredzo/
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